Backhanded Compliment

It’s the attempted delivery of a compliment but once received we don’t quite know where to put the Thank You! You know, the ones that start with “I love your shirt!” ūüôā but ends with “But I would NEVER wear that color!” ūüė¶ 

Yeah…that moment

Sometimes a back handed compliment is simply when a person opens their mouth and inserts foot- on accident. Most times its on purpose. Be mindful of a bitter person trying to steal your joy. Never be afraid to live bold, take a chance and take the unbeaten path. 

So the next time someone backhand slaps you with a few uncouth words…Protect Your Joy. Live in Your Truth, Mistakes and Discoveries. Smile. Show The World That Happiness Looks Good On You!


Life Lessons

For the past 6 months I’ve been completing what should have been a 5-day inspirational plan titled How Do I Find My Calling? This plan helped me to dig deep and reach the surface of my insecurities. A much needed soul cleansing. I’ve decided to share the plan and a few of my responses.

Question: If you could do anything you wanted to do, you had unlimited time to get further training, unlimited money, and you could not fail, what would you do?

My Response:

  • Be a writer/journalist
  • Own a consignment/vintage/thrift store

Task/Assignment: When discerning your calling, it is helpful to give a thoughtful examination of your life. Note what you have enjoyed doing and feel like you have done well. List at least three illustrations in each period of your life: grade school, junior high, high school, college, post-college.

  • What kinds of challenges trigger your motivations.
  • How and why you are motivated to learn.

MY RESPONSE: I realized a common denominator throughout my entire life is CREATIVITY and more importantly using CREATIVITY TO EXPRESS MYSELF when going thru personal challenges. When work and life is overwhelmingly stressful (my trigger) I cope by immersing myself in a CREATIVE project (my motivations).

My BUSINESS side is what keeps me motivated to learn. It’s my strong side; my “get her done”. It’s the side of me that excels in the workplace and walks confidently in a boardroom. She is relentless and goes after whatever she wants. Unfortunately, there 
comes a point where I become tired, bored or not challenged enough, or even afraid of my own strength (my trigger) which motivates me to switch to creative projects (my motivations).


Final Conclusion: So often I feel torn between my CREATIVE and BUSINESS side. My feelings are if I’m in creative mode, then I’m not focused on business (work/real-life responsibilities). As¬†of¬†now¬†this¬†blog¬†represents¬†my¬†creative¬†side.¬†After¬† my¬†uncle¬†passed¬†away I found the motivation to begin my blog, but¬†truthfully¬†the¬†idea¬†long¬†existed. Dealing¬†with¬†loss¬†gave¬†me¬†the¬†courage¬†to¬†follow¬†a¬†dream.¬†It was the push I needed. I’m¬†still¬†working¬†on¬†establishing¬†a¬†business¬†from¬†my¬†creative¬†talents. I’ve been dreaming about it, mentally developing a business plan, secretly researching ideas and opportunities. I¬†just¬†need¬†another¬†push to bring both worlds together-for good.


I challenge you to answer these questions for yourself. What have you learned about your own triggers?


Motivated By Death

As I travel to say my goodbyes to my dear uncle who suddenly passed away from pancreatic cancer, I can’t help but notice all the empty promises I have made, the to-do list I never finished and the dreams I half accomplished.

At this moment, life has never felt shorter. As the scripture resonates within my soul, no one knows the day or hour.  By acknowledging death we are truly able to live for today. It is when we overlook and underestimate time that it catches us off guard and desperately unprepared. I know that one day we must all leave this earth, so from this moment on I choose to be motivated by the present. For it is what we do in the present that dictates our life after death.


Bloggin’ Ain’t Easy

Pimpin’ ain’t easy and neither is Bloggin’

When I decided to live true to my creative self, I thought that setting up a blog would be nice and easy.  Fast forward a few months later and I haven’t done much… besides posting this blog… on me not having done much!

Every so often I have to remind myself that there is no competition. I’m in my own lane, more like the slow, right lane versus the left. Creative processes take time and I’ve got plenty of it. So whether I post every week or once a year… it doesn’t matter as long as I make myself proud.

Here’s a sticker to anyone else who needs to be reminded to breathe, take your time and make YOUrself proud.

Ungracefully Leaping

“Life remains unchanged till a leap of faith runs towards heaven”¬†¬†

Life is about taking chances. It is through these leaps of faith that we uncover our strong and successful selves. Moving from South Carolina to New Mexico was definitely not as graceful as I would’ve hoped. Leaving my loved ones to live in an unfamiliar place felt more like a crash-landing. I didn’t have a clue of the true happiness and adventures that awaited me. What once was a strange land has blossomed into a home away from home.¬† Through EllaBea, I am excited to share my moments of truth.¬†¬†